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Learning the Facts
We believe that sex buyer behavior is oftentimes rooted in addiction and that is where the solution to the problem lies.
In fact, many buyers addicted to sex suffer from what is called an intimacy disorder. This condition can occur when one is faced with feelings of neglect or abandonment as a child, growing up in a rigid household where expressing their feelings was not allowed, one or more severe emotional traumas, or a multitude of non-severe emotional traumas over time.
This type of buyer isn’t really addicted to sex at all, they simply have learned to self-medicate their unresolved emotional pain with the good feelings and dopamine rush that comes with the sexual experience. They’re hurting, and the more they hurt, the more they buy.
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What can be done?
The good news is that while overcoming sex addiction/intimacy disorder is time consuming and extremely difficult, it is not impossible. In fact, there are several Christian and secular recovery programs originally designed to help men overcome pornography addiction, which have been proven successful. Interestingly, these programs have also proven effective in helping sex buyers to overcome their addiction as well, thereby erasing the future sex buying activity which would have otherwise occurred.
Our approach is custom tailored to the individual sex buyer. Sobriety is normally achieved within the first three to six months; however, permanent recovery requires an investment of approximately 200 recovery hours – that’s weekly two-hour group meetings for two years. During this process, the recovering buyer focuses on independent study of the specific healing resources that he needs together with individual, marital and family therapy where needed – within the safety and support of a recovery group
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Finding Resources
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about sexual addition. Due to the sheer scale of the problem, you might think that this is a situation that cannot be fixed. We understand because we’ve been there. Here is what we offer:
Hope: you are not alone, you are in a safe place, and healing is possible.
Healing: individual, group, marital and family counseling combined with independent study of recovery materials and regularly attending recovery group meetings.
Health: mentoring, sponsoring and emotionally supporting others.
Help: paying it forward by providing leadership or financial support.
